Is what drives you now paying the bills, making another dollar, and putting out fires so you get paid fairly for what you’ve done?
Familiar scenario? There’s still more!
Do you think you have no choice but to keep going, even if you don’t want to?
Or, you might be confused by MPD, or “Multiple Possibility Disorder.” This is when you have a lot of ideas that don’t make sense but seem more interesting than what you’re doing right now.
Your business is too big
This is a key part of building a big business with lots of half-baked ideas, systems, and processes. It’s a recipe for frustration, feeling too busy, and not being happy.
So, what will happen to you, your business, and your future if you don’t deal with this bothersome problem?
Simple. Your energy won’t come back by magic. Neither will your attention and dedication. Either you’ll keep going for years until you can’t take it anymore, or you’ll jump to the next idea and start the whole process over again.
Put that idea on hold. Let’s remember how you felt when you fell in love with your business idea for the first time.
Were you as mesmerized by it as you might have been by the message in a new lover’s eyes?
Did it become the most important thing in the world, like a new love? Did you talk about this passion all the time because you were so eager to get your message across?
Helen Fisher, who wrote a book called “A Brain in Love,” talks about how early love makes us obsessed. She always asks people she’s studying who just fell in love, “How much of the day and night do you think about him or her?” And every time, they say, “All day and all night.”
Much the same as when you’re coming up with ideas, starting to build a new business, or figuring out who the messiah of the message is.
This obsession brings with it energy, focus, and sometimes blind but driven determination. All the signs of a passionate person.
We could not build the empires we do as business owners without them. But, just like in any love story, passion can’t stay that high for ever.
Are you breaking up or having an affair?
When a passionate relationship settles down and hits its first rough patch, it’s not really time to end it.
It’s exactly at this point that a couple should talk about what’s good about their relationship, find ways to rekindle, redefine, and review the passion, or go to counseling. From that work comes the richness of a long-term relationship, the basis for a real partnership, and the foundation for parenting, exploring, and finding happiness.
The same is true for a business. When your passion for what you’re doing starts to fade as you get deeper into it, it can be hard to resist the urge to fill your business with more ideas to bring back that initial zeal, zest, and passion.
That’s not a good idea. The same as bringing in a pretty girl or a big man to do the same thing. It just doesn’t work.
There are a lot of books and movies that talk about this emotional storm, and you may even know someone who has been hurt by an affair.
In business, the equivalent isn’t talked about as much, even though the mess that can result could be just as bad, just as likely to hurt relationships and destroy financial stability.
So, before you jump to the next big idea or start yet another project, like a new relationship, take a step back and look at the situation.
How do you see the big picture?
Why are you here on Earth? Seriously. just to make money? Or stay where you are and pay the bills? Or make a lot of money so you can do something good, change the world, or leave a legacy.
Why do you do the things that you do? Can you love it again if you loved it before? Can you make it work to change things?
What parts of what you’re doing could you cut out to make yourself freer, lighter, and better able to focus on things you love?
When you align your purpose (you, why you do what you do, and how it affects your business community), you’ll re-engage on a whole new level.
This thought is hard.
Deep thinking takes as much hard work and introspection as deciding whether to stay in a relationship or to leave it. You’ll need the self-discipline and motivation to make the most of what you already have instead of starting over. During this process, you should always have faith in yourself and trust in your skills, knowledge, and experience.
There are times when it makes sense to move on. If your values were never the same to begin with, that would be one.
But if you once really loved what you were doing, it’s worth taking the time to work on your ability to stay with it, even if it means letting go of some things and rearranging others.
Then look into how you can change what you do so that it doesn’t just pay the bills but also helps other people. It will get you excited again.
In love, you want your partner to be happy and work to make that happen.
In business, if you know what you want to do and are passionate about it, you’ll use that energy to push through any problems or obstacles that stand in your way and come up with a complete and outstanding offer that will make people happy and make a difference.
Supercharged, you won’t just jump out of bed every morning, you won’t even want to be there.