Tell the reality. How honest are you?


Challenge. Consider the last 48 hours. Can you figuratively “cross your heart and pray to die” that everything you said, wrote, or did was true?

No tiny fingers crossed behind your back?

No obfuscation, which is a deceptive strategy used by our leaders to avoid the truth.

No jargon that would make your listener unable to appreciate the more nuanced meaning of what you were expressing.

The phrase “I’m being courteous and civil, but actually I think you’re an a@#$ percent &*e” is not considered passive aggressive behavior.

What if I said, “I can afford it; it’ll just cost a little extra on my credit card”?

How far was that from the truth?

Or did you draft a proposal, email, or report, read it again to determine its purpose, then edit it to fit your needs?

How about managing a complicated relationship? Did you confront it head-on with the whole truth as you perceive it, or did you escape emotionally by acting cold or by leaving?

Who do you know who always tells the truth?

Even the most sincere, open, and genuine people occasionally falter in their honesty out of a desire to avoid upsetting or harming others. But do they have any less responsibility for lying if they want to conceal the truth?

Do we frequently make up tales about how we acted, behaved, or were treated in order to convince ourselves that it is the whole truth? Aren’t we really living a lie if we think that is the case, even though there may have been another truth?

This truth thing is difficult.

Think about how these human weaknesses from our first-world daily encounters with coworkers, clients, and family would be 100 times more exaggerated.

Imagine that this has been exacerbated by years of injustice and a widely disliked political structure.

Wouldn’t we conclude that as a result of this legacy that one side was honest and fair, and the other was dishonest and cruel?

AKA South African apartheid.

The truth is rarely that clear-cut.